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Miscarriage

This is not what I want to write about. I want to write about healthy eating and meal prep during pregnancy. I want to create prenatal meal plans. I dream of discussing, first hand, baby led weaning, feeding picky eaters and cooking with kids. But instead, I’m writing about miscarriage.

I did not choose this topic, this topic chose me. Three times.*

I’d like to start off by saying to any of you reading this that struggle with fertility or miscarriage, my heart goes out to you. No matter where you are in your journey, my prayers are with you. 

I realize that this is a story that needs to be shared more often and I have been encouraged by several friends and mentors to do so. People are afraid to talk about miscarriage and honestly, it is uncomfortable. But the fact is so many families have gone through this, yet often have to do so feeling very alone. It’s easy for me to share the happy things but I don’t think it’s fair to pretend that the struggles do not exist. I’ve experienced loss and grief three times over and I’ve decided I’m ready to share my story and hope that in doing so, I can help those touched by miscarriage feel less alone. I plan to share with you the anger and the disbelief but also the hope, encouragement and love I continue to feel. 

One thing that has been so encouraging to me in navigating this unexpected journey is reading other’s stories. People like Jenna Kutcher, Danielle Walker and my friend Liz Shaw have been so open and vulnerable about sharing their stories in real time.  I had been saving my story to share once I could lead with good news. I have a vision of me with a big ole’ belly talking about how excited we are and then opening up and discussing my miscarriages. But I’m not there yet. And I’ve decided to share now in hopes that my story can be of comfort to know that if you are struggling, you are not alone.  Selfishly, my hope is that in sharing, it will also make me feel less alone.

Because each of my miscarriages has been very different, I will share each one separately over the next few weeks. Until then, I want to thank you for your love, support and prayers. 

*This topic may not be for everybody but I am aware if affects more than we think. If you would like to subscribe to this series where I will be sharing my story as well as resources about the topic, please drop your name and email and we will keep you updated.

More of Allison's Story-

Miscarriage #1

Miscarriage #2

Pregnancy #3

Miscarriage #3

Miscarriage #4

*2 weeks after publishing this post I found out I was pregnant & miscarried a 4th time.

D&C vs. Natural Miscarriage

Avoiding Overwhelm

Miscarriage Resources-

A video on dealing with grief by my friend Joan

An article questioning the 12-week rule 

How to Talk About Miscarriage (a Psychologist's view)

More resources (Scary Mommy)

 

Comments

  1. Erica Twietmeyer says:

    I am so sorry to hear of your losses and pray for comfort for you as you grieve. I’m so glad you have friends who can support you through the process.

  2. Claire Avidon says:

    Sister!! Hang in there. I did not have a miscarriage, but I had to make my way through the journey of infertility and it is SO H.A.R.D. The process will make you stronger, and however God provides, You WILL have a little one in the end. And let me tell you how much joy is found in the wait. My heart goes out to you. Be strong and know that He is good!

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